Healing Conversations Now

Healing Conversations Now (HCN) is a process, a book, and a movement.

Healing Conversations Now, the book, gives you the tools to satisfy the deep desire to connect with elders and loved ones in a meaningful way – before you miss the opportunity. Few people would say they know just what to say to mend a relationship, to make a family member comfortable, or even to connect more meaningfully with an elder or dying loved one. HCN makes it easier to have these often-difficult conversations by providing tools, essential skills, and story examples.

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Changing the Conversation around Death and Dying

In 2011 I published Healing Conversations Now: Enhance Relationships with Elders and Dying Loved Ones as a way to help people have meaningful and powerful conversations toward end of life. Whether to enhance/mend relationships, make sense of a serious diagnosis, to find peace and acceptance, or love them goodbye. These ‪end of life #EOL conversations […]


How Do You Create a Legacy? How Will You Capture Life Memories?

Have you ever thought of capturing a loved one’s legacy? How might you go about it? What would you want to capture? What would be most important to share with future generations? Pictures? Stories? Video? Tony and Mary recently spoke with Lisa Dinga, and she told them about her experience creating a Living Legacy video […]


Remembering Papa – A hero and Loving Family Man

This post is dedicated to “Papa,” Gunther Karl Hetzel, who passed away on January 10th at age 88. He was the patriarch of the BIG Hetzel clan – nine children, 27 grandchildren, and 20 great grandchildren. Among this bunch is my amazing father-in-law, Artie (his son), Jennie Mae (his granddaughter – who I’m proud to […]


Powerful Conversation: A 10-year old interviews her Grandmother

While at a presentation, Tony had the opportunity to meet Sarah Ryan. As a nurse, she connected deeply with Healing Conversations and the power they bring to relationships. Excerpts from Sarah’s letter are below, highlighting an interview Avery (Sarah’s granddaughter) did for a school assignment. Out of the interview came an amazingly insightful poem, through […]