Healing Conversations Now

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Enhance relationships with elders and dying loved ones.

Enhance relationships with elders and dying loved ones.

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Healing Conversations Now (HCN) is a process, a book, and a movement.

Healing Conversations Now, the book, gives you the tools to satisfy the deep desire to connect with elders and loved ones in a meaningful way – before you miss the opportunity. Few people would say they know just what to say to mend a relationship, to make a family member comfortable, or even to connect more meaningfully with an elder or dying loved one. HCN makes it easier to have these often-difficult conversations by providing tools, essential skills, and story examples.

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Oct

What I learned from Mrs. O. – Healing Conversations

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Tony (Silbert) and Mary (Vargas) had the opportunity to present a session at the Aging in America Conference in March 2014 in San Diego. In that session, one of the participants shared a lovely story about Mrs. O, a patient she got to know through her work as a social worker at a nursing home. […]

Sep

Re-Membering Mom and Dad

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As I was sitting on the deck recently, my thoughts drifted to my father (it was his birthday) who passed away almost two years ago. Just then a song came on from my shuffle mix – it was a song my wife Jen commissioned, shortly before my mom passed away in 2006. Jen worked with an […]

May

The Power of Starting: Just Start – Listen – See Where the Conversation Leads You Both…

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Here is a note from my friend Randy. It illustrates clearly how important and easy it is to get conversations with our loved ones started. This is the “Now” in Healing Conversations Now. Sometimes I think we believe we need to have all the answers before we begin; this holds us back. Often, simply starting […]

Apr

What About the Tough Personalities in My Life?

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Thanks Mary V. for your insightful post below. How would you engage a loved one that you have a strained relationship with? Having a warm, comforting conversation with someone at the end of life is easier to do if you have fond memories. Then there are the people with whom you probably really should have […]

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Testimonials

"What I liked most about this book is summed up in one sentence: 'You are not there to fix anything.' Partway through the book, I realized that I felt as though I were in a conversation with the authors and all of the characters whose stories are sprinkled throughout the chapters. We readers are not asked to change, but simply to become who we are, to listen and appreciate."
Kali Lightfoot, Executive Director the National Resource Center of the Osher Lifelong Learning Institute,

"This unique and useful book offers each of us tools to create conversations that deepen the spiritual and personal well being of both the caregiver and those in their care. In this new way of having exchanges, a deepening relationship is the reward to be discovered."
Connie Goldman, author of "The Gifts of Caregiving - Stories of Hardship, Hope and Healing",

We accept, without thinking, the idea that conversations about aging and the end of life must be 'hard.' While it is true that such discussions can stir unfamiliar and uncomfortable emotions, what has yet to be appreciated is how powerful and HEALING such conversations can be. This book leads readers skillfully into the world of 'Healing Conversations.' No jargon. No nonsense. No fluff. This book is a guide to the most important conversations you and your family will ever have."
Dr. William Thomas, Introduced the Eden Alternative, Founder the Green House Project,

I have 2 aging (in their 80's) parents and over the past few years there are visible, audible and physical shifts occurring with them. This book is helping me frame loving conversations with them as the life-death process is evolving. What a great gift this book is to all of us to be able to begin to understand our loved ones (be it parents, relatives, friends) by actively engaging with them through appreciative inquiry.
Thank you Joan and Tony for creating this amazing book.
Anne Lancaster,

If you don't know how to start the conversation with an elder or dying loved one - this is the book for you! Healing Conversations Now gives you easy to understand, insightful tools, and shows you how to use them. The book is filled with story examples and conversation starters that make it easy for you see your own situation more clearly and to help you know what to ask, say, and do. A helpful read for professional caregivers and family members alike.
Mary Vargas,