Healing Conversations Now

Healing Conversations Now (HCN) is a process, a book, and a movement.

Healing Conversations Now, the book, gives you the tools to satisfy the deep desire to connect with elders and loved ones in a meaningful way – before you miss the opportunity. Few people would say they know just what to say to mend a relationship, to make a family member comfortable, or even to connect more meaningfully with an elder or dying loved one. HCN makes it easier to have these often-difficult conversations by providing tools, essential skills, and story examples.

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What I learned from Mrs. O. – Healing Conversations

Tony (Silbert) and Mary (Vargas) had the opportunity to present a session at the Aging in America Conference in March 2014 in San Diego.  In that session, one of the participants shared a lovely story about Mrs. O, a patient she got to know through her work as a social worker at a nursing home. […]


Re-Membering Mom and Dad

As I was sitting on the deck recently, my thoughts drifted to my father (it was his birthday) who passed away almost two years ago.  Just then a song came on from my shuffle mix – it was a song my wife Jen commissioned, shortly before my mom passed away in 2006.   Jen worked with an […]


The Power of Starting: Just Start – Listen – See Where the Conversation Leads You Both…

Here is a note from my friend Randy. It illustrates clearly how important and easy it is to get conversations with our loved ones started. This is the “Now” in Healing Conversations Now. Sometimes I think we believe we need to have all the answers before we begin; this holds us back. Often, simply starting […]


What About the Tough Personalities in My Life?

Thanks Mary V. for your insightful post below.  How would you engage a loved one that you have a strained relationship with? Having a warm, comforting conversation with someone at the end of life is easier to do if you have fond memories.  Then there are the people with whom you probably really should have […]